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An Open Letter…

Dear ___________

When you go through old albums…you will only find happy moments…but in between those moments there have been times when you have to work on your relation…the first year of marriage is a dreamland…afterward …Marriage becomes daily work in progress…but our parents never disclose this secret…and doesn’t matter…its love or arranged every couple goes through this phase…small things that you like initially will start irritating later…one day you love that person next day you hate them…sometimes we compromise willingly and sometimes unwillingly…there would be moments when you feel like giving up…when you will feel ‘I am done with him/her’…but don’t…stick around and things will fall into places…quitting is easy but staying and making things work is difficult…

You must be thinking why I am saying all this to you…frankly speaking I don’t know but I guess you will listen…or maybe I don’t want a beautiful girl like you to lose her charm and identity…

It was a pleasure meeting an interesting person like you…

Good luck for future…

May you have a rocking career…

May you have an amazing married life…filled with love and prosperity…

May God Bless You…

Love ❤ AARYA

 

 

 

C.O.N.D.O.M.SSS

Last evening I went to a nearby medical store for buying some supplies for home…there was a Durex counter and I was checking out the new flavors…at that moment two men walked in and the fat one nudged the skinny one ‘look she is buying a condom’…if they would have harassed me, I would have hanged them then and there…but for some reason they maintained the distance and kept giggling like school girls…but that incident left me with a thought…

Why can’t a girl buy condom? We are living in Google Age…and we still believe in clichés that girls can’t buy condoms…

While driving we should put on a helmet…in case of accidents severe head injuries can be avoided…so condoms are like helmets, we buy them to avoid unwanted pregnancy…we don’t want to go through the drama of gynea’s judgemental looks and the pain of killing a life and cursing a guy for leaving on the middle of the road…so we prefer buying condoms like other necessities of life such as bra, sanitary napkins, panty liners, etc.

We are educated and independent women…living life to the fullest…we are working hard and partying hard…we go on dates and have fun…grow up men and stop labelling us as whore or slut just because we buy condoms…

Buying condom is a sign of strong and independent woman…I am the one…Are you?

Love ❤ AARYA

The Best Disguise Award

‘These politicians can fetch The Best Disguise Award, I tell you’ Alankrita said while throwing remote on the couch

I laughed, I met her 12 years ago and she hasn’t changed a bit…she is a reporter by profession and becomes very aggressive when it comes politics but a gem at heart…I smiled and said ‘I can’t agree with you’

‘You believe that they are saint’

‘No they are assholes…but they don’t deserve the Best Disguise Award’ I passed freshly baked cinnamon bread to her…she took a full bite ‘Whl you wean?’

‘I think Best Disguise Award should be given to women’

‘Please enlighten me’

I smiled…I love her it’s so easy to talk to her…she never judge you…and always ready for a new opinion…  ‘Kriti look at the women…when we are in college we try to pretend our family is cool…when our parents force us to choose a specific career, we might be bleeding from inside but will say out loud, I am fulfilling my dreams…when it comes to choosing a life partner…do we have option…never…we didn’t say no, because we know it’s of no use’

‘That’s not true…parents have changed’

‘Really how many…we are few bunch of people who are lucky…I am talking from a general point of view Kriti…how many parents asks their daughters…like a good girl we jump in the dark pit…no matter how much have been through because of our husband, children and in laws…we always have fake smile “I have a perfect family”…I have two loving kids and a true gentleman who is great husband and loving father…but reality is way to different…our husband might be beating the shit out of us night after night but in kitty parties we would be like ‘he is so romantic, he bought me this sari last month’ even if he has never bought her a single handkerchief also…’

‘I know what you are getting at…my mom has suffered so much because of dad but in front of the whole world she is always “ I have a super awesome husband…I have seen her lying thousands of time in front of other about Dad even when he is abusing her day & night’

‘See now you are getting my point…aren’t we women deserve the Best Disguise Award…we might be dying with every passing day…reason can be any from parents, career to husband and family…but we create illusion by putting a happy mask’

‘True…look at us…we are happy in our personal life still there are moments when we also carry those happy mask…interesting…do you think women in other parts of the world have happy masks too’

‘Obviously…history has proved women have done PhD in camouflaging’ we both started laughing…because it’s an inside joke which only we women can understand

Love ❤ AARYA

WE…means…WOMEN EMPOWERMENT…

Few days ago…I participated in Elocution…my topic was “Are Women Really Empowered?”

I did some research and came to know that WOMEN EMPOWERMENT basically means creating an environment where she can increase her strengths politically, spiritually, socially & economically…

It is a very small meaning of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT…otherwise it has a very vast meaning…

I understood one thing…it is all about giving independence to women…so that she can create her own identity…not accepting the identities created by others or society…where she can explore her own thoughts, emotions, desires & thinking…it is all about believing in yourself & being honest to yourself…not feeling ashamed when you are actually enjoying something…

To have the courage to fight against the society taboo…to have freedom of speech, freedom of choice, freedom to express one’s idea…it means unlocking the wings of women…so that she can fly high…so that she can understand herself better…so that she can identify her true self…

After understanding the true meaning of WOMEN EMPOWERMENT…I realized women are not empowered…if at all women are actually empowered then the crime rate against women in India should have been decreased…but reality is way too different…

If women of India would have been empowered the bill that is passed after Delhi Gang Rape Case…it would have been passed years ago…but women in India are not politically empowered…domestic violence, acid attacks, molestation, eve teasing, rape…all these crime would have been decreased…but they are not…

There are many families and communities in India…which cannot tolerate the voice of the women in their house forget about expressing a thought or a dream…they would be immediately slashed by male members of the family…

You might be thinking what rubbish I am talking about…Sonia Gandhi, Indira Nooyi, Kalpna Chawla…have changed the face of women of India…but they are only a bunch of women who are blessed…otherwise majority of women are still living in doom…the change cannot come immediately…it will take a long time…we need to start from the root…which is education…

I am fortunate enough that I am empowered…my family gave me the opportunity to study and be independent…my family let me live on my terms…they let me fly high…

And today as an empowered woman…I feel that it is my duty and responsibility to empower the other women…are you empowered???…what is your opinion about women empowerment???…

That’s AARYA signing of for today…