Honesty Is The Best Policy…

People always say Honesty is the Best Policy…well in today’s world following this quote religiously is pain in the ass…but when it comes to relationships…Honesty is the Best Policy

Now you need to understand…out here I am not talking about Lying…I am talking about staying Honest…I am talking about Hiding and not Confessing when you still have time…

In last ten years of my life…I have understood one thing…if you maintain transparency…you will get the best out of your relations…whether it’s the relationship of husband and wife or any other relation of life…from your parents till your client…

You peep into any broken relationship…you will find that either of the party was not honest…they hide something out of fear…now that fear might be of losing opposite person or relationship…sometimes things become so messier that it creates huge gap…which can never be fixed…

Why do we hide? Why don’t we confess on time? Why do we wait till the end for life to become more fucked up?…God knows but it’s human nature…

Few years back Vicky and I became the victim of honesty…he didn’t say a single word to me till end…I knew something was wrong…he was in some kind of trouble…but I sealed my lips thinking he might be having troubles with his colleagues…almost after a year things went out of control…and some people took advantage of it and created misunderstanding between us…I believed them because they filled all the gaps which Vicky had created in over the last one year…

Somewhere deep down…my heart was saying he cannot do that but circumstances were against him…he never confided to me…whenever I questioned he was always like stay out of it…and people who were jealous took advantage of the situation…somehow we sorted the whole matter…those were the worst time of our relationship…things were on the rocks for couple of months…how did we patch up…well that’s another story…

But can you see my intention…I could have shared any other story but I shared mine…because I have been through it…I am sure all of you have gone through these kind of trust and honesty issues in your lives…maybe with your parents, spouse, friends or children…been there, done that…

So why don’t we try to change things little bit…after all it’s a global problem…why don’t we start with our kids…creating a suitable environment and asking them to be honest, if they ever get in some kind of trouble…making them understand, we might shout and be very angry…but after sometime we will sort out everything for you…

How would this help us???

Well in future whenever our kids will be on their own…they would remain honest in their relations…secondly they will always know…there is someone who trusts them with his life…so why don’t we stay honest…

I don’t know whether you liked this idea or not…but Vicky and I have been following this pattern since that time…we fight and get angry but do remain honest with each other…

Honesty in relationship is like that medicine…which sucks in taste…but it’s effective in long run…

 Love ❤ AARYA

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2 thoughts on “Honesty Is The Best Policy…”

  1. I´ll agree and then disagree, just for the simple fact that I´m bored to death 😉

    I do agree that honesty is very important because that leads to trust. And that last word, trust, in any relationship is crucial. It´s very hard to gain and very easy to loose. But at the same time honesty and trust don´t have to overlap each other. It´s not, in my opinion, healthy to be completely honest with people. Even the closest to you. White lies or holding things back for whatever reason it is, is not always bad as long as the other person has that trust in you. If I´m not saying something it´s because I don´t want to hurt someone or be embarrassed or whatever the reason, but the other person if they really care about you and you care about them they do have to respect that. In any relationship you have to respect also the privacy of your partner. You don´t have to be constantly a nag in saying “why didn´t you tell me that?” ” why did you do that?” so on and so forth for other things too. They key here is just that word, trust. Which doesn´t not completely correlate to being completely honest. As a matter of fact I find it quite boring when a person is completely honest with me, the mystery tends to go away. And in a relationship first and foremost I believe that laughing and having a good time with your partner is crucial, and second even if you are with a person and not very naive you pretty much know that person and know that they are not being honest for whatever reason they have but you need to have that trust, and let them breath on the side and have their own privacy.

    About the kids thing..there´s this quote by quite a smart you lady that goes like this “parents can only give good advice or put them on the right path´s, but the final forming of a persons character lies in their own hands” That was Anne Frank.

    So if you have kids, depending on the culture I guess, but you can only teach and show your kid so much and then let him be who he is. He or she might not turn out exactly as you would like them to turn out. Might not be as honest as you would like him/her to be or do the job you would like them to do. They might turn out gay or God know how the hell the kid turns out. But me having no kids but I do have a mother, well she loves me for what I am, ofcourse she had other expectations for me, better ones, but I lived my life the way I wanted to live it, with all the consequences a lot of bad decisions and also good decisions. Happy times and sad times. Honest and not honest, doing bad and doing good, humans are not linear as you well know.

    Point being is that you have to install your values in that kid, but eventually that kid will start growing up and be his own person and live his own life. And the worst thing he can think is that mommy and daddy is having his or her back constantly since that will create a dependent person, and being a dependent person is one of the worst things that can happen to a human since you´re obviously going to be tied down to others and not live freely as you wish. Regardless weather your parents think is right or wrong your way of life, but it has to be your life not of that anybody else. And if those parents really love their kid, then they will accept him/her for what they have become and not try to change them but accept them.

    That was a mouthful… see what happens when I´m bored? I start to actually say semi logic things, not good.

    And since I just can´t help it, I still have to say, would you in God´s name, whatever God you worship but I´m quite certain that he want´s you to come to Spain.

    Also, I´m going to stop reading your posts since then you make me think and talk in a serious manner 😉

    Looove ya! Have a great weekend Aarya.

    1. Sorry for late reply dear…I got your point…and do agree with you that we don’t need to tell every stupid thing to each other…I was talking big and important things which might ruin the relationship…anyways I always enjoy reading your views because you always make sense and
      I wish I can come to Spain but I am broke 😀 so for the time being find a good girl for yourself out there 😛

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