Let’s Talk About…SEX…

SEX…why people can’t talk about it???…why we still consider it a Taboo???…why is it considered sinful and impure by some fools???…WHY…WHY…WHY…WHY…WHY???

I was hanging out with my family friends last weekend…we all were talking and laughing, suddenly we started talking about SEX and I noticed that few of them started looking here and there as if they had never heard about the word SEX before…I felt like shouting on all those bitches…that when you can spread your legs night after night in front of your husband…when you can become whore for him in the bedroom than why can’t you fucking talk about it???…

Don’t give me that excuse that it’s impure and all…because if it was really so impure and sinful…people would have abolished it from society long ago…Vatsyayana wouldn’t have written 36 chapters book on human sexual behavior…

MillsBoon-125x125SEX is part of human cycle since we took birth in this world…so why can’t we discuss about it…we love to read Mills & Boons…we love to enjoy Playboy & Juggs…media_138357245885310000we love to watch porn on internet…we love to masturbate…we love to have sex…but I am so sorry we can’t talk about it publicly…what will the people say? What will the world say?…FUCK the people FUCK the world…why don’t we sit together and discuss about SEX over a cup of coffee or a beer…choose what you wanna have…coffee or beer…and I am all ears…

20140106040834727I am not saying that SEX is life…but just like money it is important part of life…every one of us having trouble in the bedroom…someone’s partner cheating on them…someone’s is not able to meet the expectation of their husbands…majority of the men are not delivering Orgasm to their wives…kids are having sex and getting pregnant at the age of 12…still we don’t want to talk about it…we will put a duct tape around our mouth so that no one can force me talk about it…Y6wBxLHcPLx

You know what makes it more worse…we giggle like kids whenever we heard or read word SEX…majority of us can’t even say ‘My Sex life is on toss’ instead we say ‘You know, we are having problem in bedroom’…REALLY…WHAT…some wiring problem or some plumbing problem or paint is peeling off the roof…

If you are having trouble in bedroom…talk about it…your avoidance might create a big problem than you are having at present…I have a friend…she doesn’t like sex…she is 25 and she consider sex as impure and sinful but she is not understanding that her this attitude will be fatal for her relationship in long run…because sex is important part of married life and most of the time when your spouse cheats on you and get to know that SEX is the reason behind it…now fault can be from any end…

When I was 16…I was super excited about sex…but I didn’t know the theory leave the practical aside…In India parents will patch2imagechoose death instead of discussing SEX with kids…
When I joined college, I met this cute guy…few dates & phone sex later we wanted to try it…you know what…but we were totally lame and unaware about it how it works…well ten years ago we don’t have easy internet access to watch porn and understand the whole concept…so we laid naked but god knows what to do and how to do…but by the end of the day we figured out how do it 😀

Now the problem was that I was not having orgasm…I used to get it through masturbation but it was difficult to achieve with his penis inside…few weeks later we nailed that too…so SEX life was rocking …OOPS…are we supposed to use something to avoid Pregnancy…We forgot, now what…SHIT, my dad will kill me…Don’t worry, we will fix it…lets visit a doc and get rid of it…few hours of pain later…I was back to normal and sex life started with a boom boom but this time with CONDOM 🙂pozy_dlya_sna_vdvoem

Few years later sex become monotonous…there was no spice and no sugar :(…Again I figured out that we need to experiment and we need to spice up few things…

Now these are some common problems faced by majority of us…I have faced some of them too …why because there was no one with whom I can talk…there was no one who can give me some advice and sexual tips…I figured it out myself and on that road I suffered a lot not only mentally but physically too…

I am sure I am not alone…there are many others…who have faced this problem and some are still facing…do you realize that if we will talk about SEX openly things will become lot more easier and smoother for us…our parents didn’t taught us anything than why don’t we try to overcome this TABOO…why don’t we take an oath that when it comes to SEX, I will discuss about it keeping my mind as open as possible and also without judging anyone…

If someone is talking about SEX it doesn’t mean that person has a loose character or he/she is a pimp…NOW…after reading so muchtaboo-2 also if you don’t have guts it’s alright…but don’t judge…we might also judge you as untraditional or as an orthodox or cherry on the top as hypocrite…

I know majority of the people are going to read this and leave it…they will not like it also even if they like it because they will be scared what will the world say…what will my fellow bloggers think…you know what…I don’t give a shit…because I have seen many people around me who don’t have guts to talk on SEX…leave talking they can’t even take a Non Veg Joke…leave the rest…

As far as I understood…everyone loves to have SEX and needs guidance too…we can avoid…early pregnancies, contraception’s, one night stand, extra marital affairs, STDs, Rape, child abuse, molestation, eve teasing and lot more…these things will never end until we  try to come out in the open and have guts to discuss about it…

OMtkMxTF324We belong to the land of Kama Sutra and Khajuraho…

We are the second highest populated country in the world…

We are also the second highest country in the world who Google about sex and porn…

still you believe that SEX is a western culture…well…FUCK OFF…and upgrade your SEX Knowledge…

Till than I will have a…….never mind 😉

Feeling Sexy…AARYA


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30 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About…SEX…”

  1. Looks to me that you have a some strong opinions about the subject.
    It’s unfortunate that some people think of sex as something impure and sinful. It is a gift actually. I believe that God made us to enjoy it, and for that reason, it is pleasurable. The only problem though is that human beings tend to take things to the extreme. I believe that we were made to have one partner and be committed to that person for life. That’s part of my worldview. I believe that sex, outside of that commitment, is sinful. I believe in the Bible and it says that every sin a person commits is outside of the body. However, if one sins sexually (outside of that marriage commitment, fornication, and the like), he is sinning against his own body. My past is was very promiscuous, to say the least. I won’t get into details. i believe that when we give ourselves over to another, we create a spiritual bond. And if you go ahead and create that spiritual bond with Joe, Jim, Jane, Greg, Kevin, Garry, Sally, and many others, then there’s something wrong. Could very well be why there are so many STDs and the AIDS epidemic. Hmmm, makes one think eh.
    Anyhow, summarizing my thoughts on sex.
    -It’s an amazing gift from God
    -It’s to be done with one person only
    -When you have sex with someone you become one with that person
    -It is not only a physical act, but an emotional and spiritual act
    Maybe this is instinctively why people feel shy to talk about it openly. Because they instinctively know that it’s a very intimate and personal thing. If it wasn’t, we’d all be walking around naked.
    Great theme to think on. Thanks for this opportunity to share my opinion and view.
    With love 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts…being an Indian makes me a die hard monogamist…and I do believe that we should always stick to one partner only…and I am proud of it too that I implemented it in my real life too…I married the guy I fell in love with but you are right Staci…nowdays people are switching partners as if they are switching jobs…and in India it has created too much imbalance in the society…our parents never talks to us and we hardly communicate in friend circle…thn we end up in a really big mess which is beyond recovery…I like to have healthy talk on sex which people hardly like to have…I want people in my country to get over with this Taboo…I know it can sort out many problems related to women crime…
      Its great to know that there are people even out of India who believes in monogamy…I really appreciate your views Staci 🙂

      1. Right on! I’m so glad you are a die hard monogamist. And I totally see what you’re saying about healthy conversation about sex and all. I’ve been to and lived in India before, so I can understand a little bit about where you’re coming from. Parents truly do need to be open and honest with their children about the issue. Parents are suppose to prepare their children for a life of responsibility. If they’re not doing that, then there’s definitely going to be some major confusion on the topic. And, of course, it would become taboo. If children learn from their parents that it’s not to be mentioned, then I can definitely see how an it would be taboo.
        Thank you for such an enriching conversation. I really appreciate it. 🙂

      2. I am happy that you can appreciate my thoughts and really thank you so much for giving your inputs…I will definitely make sure to give my kids best sex education 🙂

    1. Thanks ton Jess…Yes we Indians need to be really broad minded when it comes to Sex…I am trying to change some of my friends…I hope they cooperate 🙂

  2. I dont understand the sexual talk either, we are one or the other of it as a direct result from the act of it. If we have children then that means we did it too. So whats the big deal? Open up folks. Its actually pleasurable. 🙂

  3. Now, whether the women who open their legs for their husband or lovers are whores, is debatable. Many of them are hypocritical, as are many men. We do, as you know, have many disgusting men like Akhilesh Yadav and his father who cheapen men, women and sex.
    Coming to our attitudes. We had a rich tradition of sexuality. Witness not only The Kamasutra, but also the carvings at Khajuraho and the Sun Temple at Konarak. Somewhere along the way, middle class morality entered the picture, and the picture became muddy. This is not just true of India. Such attitudes persist in many parts of the world.
    In the UK, I read, in the 1500′s and the 1600′s, the Church frowned upon sex. It was deemed acceptable only for procreation, and all the while the Popes had a merry romp with their mistresses. They even decreed that husbands and wives should not see each other naked, and special night dresses with holes in the appropriate places were made.
    In the 1800′s, despite the Victorian society, there was a thriving underground industry for erotic novels, and some of these were very well written indeed!
    Indeed, despite her reputation, it is said that Queen Victoria loved a romp in the hay! So did the Virgin Queen, Elizabeth.
    Sex, down the ages, is one of those activities we love, and we love to blush about it, and be hypocritical about it.
    By the way, when Sushma Swaraj was Information & Broadcasting Minister, in the days when we did not have satellite TV, decreed that the Doordarshan Newsreaders should wear blouses that did not reveal anything beneath the throat. The one who suffered most, was a newsreader called Minu who, until then, loved wearing deep cut blouses.
    I had a French Boss who once quizzed me on our puritanical attitude to sex, and I replied in a huff”” We have 1 billion people, and this did not come about through immaculate conception”!

    1. Thank you so much Rajiv for sharing your thoughts…I was not aware about that other countries have shown resistance towards Sex too…I guess we all know what these Religious Gurus do in the name of the GOD…in front of the whole world they call Sex sinful and behind the doors they are always on rollar coaster ride…and what to say about these Royals…but Sushma Swaraj stunt was really funny, why didnt she make burkha compulsory for every Indian Women…most of the world do think that we Indians are orthodox but guys do the reality check…we are second largest populated country…we are definitely doing too much behind the door…I really apreciate your thoughts and inputs…I hope someday we get over this Taboo 🙂

  4. I respect your passion for the subject of . . . passion. o,O I agree that there should be at least some discussion with the parents about things to avoid some very undesirable circumstances, and in your trusted groups, such as a family circle of women I really don’t understand whey there could not be at least some discussion.
    But as I’ve read in other of your writings, don’t expect anything of anyone and you will be much happier. At least that goes for this point in your life. Unless you expect not to receive any open engagement in the discussion of . . . sex. Don’t tell anyone I said the word.
    I must say that going in reverse order of your writings I can see a change in your style. I am very impressed how quickly you have progressed. You are a truly talented and passionate writer. I believe you could do this professionally.
    Much Respect
    And yes, I ‘liked’ it. I can respect passion and honest work. If this had been a merely a shock treatment like many would have done, I would have stopped reading, but you never lie and never write about something this strongly unless you feel it truly and deeply. I respect that in anyone.

    1. I wasnt expecting any comment on this post atleast…I know people can enjoy sex like for hours but when it comes to discuss about it they start behaving like an ostrich…I always appreciate healthy Sex Talk…where no one will judge you…I enjoy that kind of talk with my lil brother and few close friends but otherwise try to crack a non veg joke in public…people will start addressing you as a hooker or something…I want people to get over with this Taboo…
      If we will talk about it openly so many crime against women will decrease automatically…you whats worst Ron…if a girl is raped media flashes that she has been physically abused…I mean how could you there is a huge difference between being physically abused and being raped…why cant they get over this…well I dont want to raise my temper specially in the early hours 😀
      But thank you Ron…I know you aren’t comfortable with these kind of topics as you have mentioned earlier in some of your posts…still I appreciate your effort to share your thoughts…and dont worry I am not going to tell that you used that word…Love Aarya 😀

  5. Pardon my bad english. its not the fault of common people of india that they have such thoughts.Just like a heriditary disease can happen to anyone at any point of life and continue for generations,i believe same is with the people here.as u said we r from the land of kamasutra then what hapenned to that broad minded society?here’s my hypothesis: i read in history that afgans and mongols used to raid our country in the kamasutra period.as having sex openly in islam is a great sin they started to kill anyone who tried to this created a kind of fear in minds of people.this is when the heriditary disease.It spread to whole country because our whole was controlled by mongols british also had the same effect on us bcoz they were also reigned by genghis khan. at some point of time so open talks about sex stopped due to fear of death same beliefs were passed down for generations to present day like a disease

    Note: i meant to offend any religion mentioned in my comment bcoz I FUCKING HATE RELIGIONS THEY DO NOTHING BUT TO DETORIATE PEOPLES MINDS AND DIVIDE US INTO SENSELESS GROUPS AND FIND IDIOTIC REASON TO KILL INNOCENT HUMANS AND ANIMALS FOR GOD KNOWS WHO I DETEST EVERY RELIGION PRESENT ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH cmon we are all humans we should not let such things affect our humanity killing others bcoz they r of different religion? outrageous! arent the ones we kill under the name of religion fellow humans? think on it if u cut this post based on my second para then that will be idiotic

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