The Third Gender…do you know them???

TRANSGENDERS are still considered Taboo around the world…some people are transgender by birth, some do it by choice…according to a survey, India has around 2 million transgender people…

In India, a common term used to describe transgender people, transsexuals, cross-dressers, eunuchs and transvestites is HIJRA…their living conditions are very poor; you will usually see them in ladies attire and some of them are actually so good with makeup and all that most of the time they will look more convincing than any average looking Indian woman…they have very limited source of income because of discrimination, they often live in poverty, their only source of income is collecting money and gifts during marriage and baby naming ceremony…in Indian culture their blessings are considered very fruitful during these ceremonies and that is why people welcome them at home very happily…they ask for more money during a boy’s marriage or a baby boy’s birth…and this custom is being followed by Indians since ages…and sometimes they earn a living by begging or by prostitution and if anyone ever gets raped there is no law to protect them…

I remember the very first time I saw a group of transgender; I was four…my brother was only 6 months old, they were asking my mom to give them money and gifts because of baby boy…and my mom was saying no to their unreasonable demands, she was like we are not so financially sound that we can give you gifts and cash of worth thousands of rupees, but they were not listening to her…when she strictly said NO, they started doing some offensive and horrifying things, which I still can’t believe that anyone can do publicly…

That image was stuck in my mind for years, I used to get sacred of them whenever I saw them in public…until one day I asked my mom who are they and why do they live like ladies but look like man…my mum explained it to me in the best possible way…as usual unsatisfied with her answer I asked her why don’t they study and work like other normal people…she looked at me for a long time and said “I don’t know sweety”

I kept asking that questions to everyone until one day I saw a documentary on Trans gender’s in India…I was shocked to see their horrifying living conditions and the way people misbehaved with them and treated them like an insect…I realized that they wanted to study and work like normal people but our society and law doesn’t allow them to do so…it’s not their fault that they are born this way or they have chosen this kind of life for themselves…We are the main culprits, we have always been treating them as outcastes…you know it is just like passing a racist comment on someone or misbehaving with Untouchables (Caste Issues of India)…

Imagine a situation when everyone thought it’s a girl but when you look down you realize that it’s a boy…now if parents can’t accept this kind of physiological condition of their child than how could you expect from the world that they will respect your child…if you want to learn something try to read about the famous trans of India LAXMI NARAYAN TRIPATHI…she is educated and an activist fighting for the rights of Transgender since years…she is the first Transgender to represent Asia Pacific in the UN…but the best thing about her and her life is that her family always supported her…

I know many of us have bad experiences with Trans people in India but imagine their situation, anybody in those circumstances would usually behave badly…lack of education and awareness among them also is responsible for their misconduct most of the time…and the stupid fact associated with them,  that if we will misbehave with a HIJRA, they will curse us, now that is way to lame to believe…but I am happy that finally Supreme Court of India has recognized transgender as a third gender, in a landmark ruling…It ordered the government to provide transgender people with quotas in jobs and education in line with other minorities, as well as key amenities…

Now they will also have an equal opportunity like us…to read and write, to have a decent job, to have a decent pay and decent house to live in…I know it’s a never ending journey…and it will take a lot more time to erase it from the people’s mind that they are more than a gender…they are also human like you and me, they too have a soul…if you can’t love them, than you also don’t have any right to hate them and make their life miserable…between love and hate there is a line of acceptance…Can you accept them???…

Imagine…

You feel great about yourself, but when you look down, your body is the opposite sex from who you know yourself to be…Imagine what would it feel like to live with that discrepancy…Jamison Green

That’s AARYA signing off for today…Respect every individual…acceptance can make difference to their lives…

 

 

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