Career or Family…Choice is yours???

In the span of last 20 years, India has changed a lot…previously girls hardly used to complete their education, even a 10th or 12th Grade pass girls were also considered educated and if any girl had completed her Graduation, that means she was highly qualified…but now scenario is totally different, girls are not only completing their Graduation but they are also working…they are also contributing financial help to their families…

Today’s women in India are highly qualified and financial independent…Parents are also providing them same platform just like their son, good food, good clothes, best education, you name it and they are doing everything for their beloved daughters…gone are those days when they were dependent…but in this rat race, all these great independent women’s have forgotten their main & huge responsibility…HOUSE & FAMILY…

Well, I know I may sound rude & old school…but think about it…Am I wrong???

Since ancient times, house & family were responsibility of a woman and man was supposed to bring home beacon…but around 19th century things started shifting, women started working…they joined the workforce and started walking in the rat race with men…now some of them started working due to their bad financial position while some started working for fun…but in the long run, lots of things has taken a wrong turn…

I salute to all those women who are working to support their family, I know if given the choice they would love to quit it  but they can’t…but what about those girls who are working for fun, they are happily married, financially secured, have two beautiful children to look after still they want to work…WHY????

We all agree to it that if you are working woman you can’t manage both your house and your job…you will perform only at one place either house or job…now majority of the women prefer to perform well in their jobs…but what about your first priority your family & house…how could you just turn away your face from them…and I know its harsh but all these working women are not at all good with managing house & kids…

Most of the time their house is a mess, they hardly cook at home & they hardly have time to spend with their kids…and husband as well, who is he…even if you manage to have a full time servant & nanny for your kids, but what about you…you wanted to get married and have beautiful life with your husband but you don’t have time for him…you wanted to enjoy your motherhood, but you are leaving your kids with nanny & a full time servant…have you ever thought that you are running away from your responsibilities would have a very severe impact in long run…

In India, divorce cases are on rise, marriages are getting …..and the reason these 21st century girls don’t want to QUIT…there all time favorite line, “I am highly educated & equally qualified just like my husband then why should I leave my job & career…why can’t he do that”…you gotta be kidding me…do you really think that man have those qualities of managing a home, still somehow they will manage home, but what about kids???… most of these working woman love to live with their in-laws, they are not madly in love with them…they are usually tolerating them so that she can work and her in-laws will help in household activities & will keep an eye on children…so in long run, if your kid through you out of house or misbehaves with you or supports your in-laws instead of you, no need to cry over it, that I did this & that for you…NO you didn’t do anything for anyone…you were just bothered about your CARRER…

I am not saying that they shouldn’t work, I am also highly qualified, but I have a family & it is my responsibility & duty to look after them…yes after doing all the household work when I am free, I write…but I am not running after my career, because in the long run after 30 or 40 years, I don’t want to regret that I never gave time to my husband & kids…I don’t want to cry over things that my husband is having extra marital affair or something, well there are bright chances that he will do that because the woman who was supposed to give him everything and satisfy all his needs is busy with her career, so he will definitely go out…and also no need to cry over your kids if they don’t have time for you, because when they needed you the most, you were always sitting in the office…

Man are still doing the same thing, in olden days also they were supposed to bring beacon, and today also they are bringing home beacon in some cases steak…but what about us…why we women have forgotten our responsibilities and duties in the long run…why everyone of us are running after career…why we don’t want to attach housewife tag with us…are you ashamed of your mom, she is housewife, she left her career, her life and more than anything else her identity, just for you…just imagine the situation when she was never at home, every time you came home from school, just think about those days, what if there was no one to give you hot and freshly cooked food, what if there was no one to hug when somebody has teased you or molested you…just imagine your life without your backbone your mother…

Well women are working because of their circumstances, can’t help it…but what about woman who have the best of both worlds still messing with life…full fill your responsibilities and then also if you have time go ahead with your career…so far in life I have understood only one thing you can’t have it all…either you can be a great wife & mother or you can be a great professional…yes there are few jobs which provide you flexibility but that are only few…

Well this is a never ending topic, we can discuss and write about it forever…but I really feel that it’s better to fulfill your first priorities and then go for second one…and trust me my words might be tasting like a snakes poison, but in the long run you will understand what I meant…that is all for today…I will write about it in detail later on…till then I am signing off for today…

AARYA

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